[Faia ren]

Ok here's the deal. I'm going out with Wulf. We are going to get married*On Gaia* but as of late he hasn't been on much. When he does get on we don't talk much but I still love him. And last night as my friend Arc was going this 'I only hurt people' thing I realized that I felt something for him as well. What should I doo!!!! *Cries*

[Skuld-chan]

"Online marriges" are a dangerous risk indeed.

hmmmm......I'm really not sure at this point.  Anybody else got suggestions?  I gave up the online dating thing (RPG or RL) a long time ago. 

[Faia ren]

Your no help Senkusha... I really really really need some help on this! *Cries*

[Ciminal]

well does he like Arc more than you? just tell him what Arc is feeling and get him to tell Arc to backoff because youre his...

[Faia ren]

I think you missed something. I'm the one who likes both WUlf and Arc...

[Sari]

This is a tough decision that should be evaluated carefully or thing could get into a bigger tangle. First, you should get your friend, Arc some help. He's depressed and you shouldn't just let it be.
Now, who do you love more? I know it sounds cold to do that, but it's the best way to do it. Seek some advice from people who have some experience with stuff like this. And, now, think about what;s been going with both. If you don't, it may lead to an abusive relationship.
Once again, you should probably ask others as well. People have asked me about it, but, frankly, I'm just in my first relationship.
Be careful.

[Faia ren]

But I can't talk to anyone in real life because they think you can't love someone you've only met online. Wulf has been going to court for some custdoty stuff i guess... But I kind of miss him... Arc still loves his GF and he's trying to get me to not love him anymore by blocking me... but it's not really helping much...

[Skuld-chan]

hmmm, based on that information, I think the only option you have that won't "hurt as much" is to go with Wulf, since Arc wants nothing to do with you.

[Faia ren]

I know that! Last night I was talking to Arc... And I think that Wulf might be angry at me or something... I odn't know but nothing is working out like it should!!

[I wonder what lies beyond that...]

problems like this are truely hard to sort out especially if one doesnt know the emotional "status" of the person. or how stable / unstable a person is. Idealy talking to someone in person is BEST, not to those online. But you knew that anyway so...

[Faia ren]

Yes.... Well, I told Wulf and he was a little hurt... He wasn't as angry as he thought he was going to be... We are postponing the engagdement because Wulf keeps getting grounded... and all of that stuff... Everything seems to be good now... I hope...

[Zionia]

Faia, in my opinion, id say it is up to you. It is just an online thing anyways. Id recomend talking with both of them and comming to a conclusion...

[Shidasko]

I'd like to put my 2 cents into this.. But... from past experience I..E severals years of being mixed up in only online relationships. All of htem turning sour but the durations varied with each one. For your own mental sake of sanity and psyche... Drop the online relationship. Those types of bindings are the worst kind, even though you may think you know the person. But you really don't. As you only know the person through what they tell you. The only way to get to know the true personality and person behind the text is actually meet and get to know them through face-to-face interactions.

I know it may sound a little harsh but it's the truth.. telephone, written letters, webcams, and Instanst messaging. It never reveals the truth behind the person. All the "VR" relationship is going to do is give you false hope and promote a false happiness that is only going to make you feel worse when the pseudo-happy relationship ends.

Believe me.. i've done it all and experienced everythign possible. VR relationships are completely and utterly a waste of time when you can be doing other thigns and finding happiness elsewhere.. in real life. If thats the case and you are a overly shy person and want to find happiness. your better off finding it in a book.

[Zionia]

yes...id have to agree with shido here....online relationships almost always end painfully...

[I wonder what lies beyond that...]

like ours grrrr